Love you, mom | Personal

My mom lives about 10 hours away from me. That ten hours is so far away! The drive is so long. She doesn’t work. I always ask her to come closer to me. Please? A temporary job brought her to San Rafael for a short three months. Every other weekend I loaded up the car with the girls and we drove to visit her. One hour. One short, sweet  hour. And spent a whole Sunday morning with her. Sunday is such a sacred day to me and to spend it with my mom at the farmers market or sitting on the patio just meant so much to me.

My Papa Verma is in the last stages of his life. He is in need of assistance to do everything. Eat, bathe, walk. So sad. The old man that used to chase me around with a wooden spoon to give me spankings when we lived overseas can’t even hold his own spoon to feed himself. Life is cruel sometimes.

Mama Verma is too old and too rickety to take care of her husband. So mom got on a plane a month ago. And flew 10 hours. FLEW. That ten hours is so very far from me. So, so far.

Today I had a bad day. I day where I wanted to yell, “DON’T THESE PEOPLE KNOW HOW HARD I WORK?” I would usually call mom but she has no international calling plan. She wasn’t at her computer to Skype with me. There was no new Facebook message from her. I came home, picked up my phone three times wanting to press her number but the voice on her message box would make me cry. I did it anyway. I called her number. Listened to her voice and hung it up. And I cried.

She won’t be back until March. That is such a long time from now. So, so long.

I miss you, mom. Please take care of your mom and dad. Love you.

Mom & me. Suffolk, England. 1979.Mom and me. Our house in England. April 1979.

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10 comments

Ati @ Gekd Boutique - December 1, 2009 - 5:30 AM

This post has me in tears and I thank you so very much for touching my soul. My mom is also overseas and when bad days overcome me- I wish she was here to comfort me. Isn’t it the craziest thing? Even in adulthood- we still long for that maternal love. I love that bond.

I’m praying for you, dear Kia. I will continue to keep your grandparents in my prayers. You are blessed to still have them around. With God’s speed- may your mom return home safe and sound.

Humorous side note: I remember the wooden spoon all too well. *smiles*

ajira - December 1, 2009 - 6:11 AM

I love this post Kia- so raw and full of love. Thank you for sharing this… I miss my mum too- she’s so far away as well. That photograph of the two of you is delightful. Your mom is beautiful- like you are.

Cindy Utterback Photography - December 1, 2009 - 8:58 AM

Oh Kia… reading your post makes me wish I was close enough to reach out and give you great big hugs. Maybe share a tear or more together. I feel your heart & pain & will keep ya in my prayers. Tweet me anytime. And if ever you wanna call just know your more than welcome.

admin - December 1, 2009 - 1:06 PM

Thanks, my ladies. Today I feel like I would follow my girls around when they grow up.

Jeanine - December 1, 2009 - 1:20 PM

Hope you feel a little better today and that you can get hold of her soon and let her voice make you feel better. Moms are just the best and I honestly would not know how to survive without my mom living just next door.

Kellie - December 1, 2009 - 2:36 PM

Kia – I know how hard you work! Don’t let unhappy people make you unhappy. I love this photo…you look so much like your mom. I am sure she misses you as much as you miss her. Be prepared for a big hug from me today :)

Brianna Phelan - December 8, 2009 - 12:41 AM

I’m sorry you had such a crummy day and are missing your mom. I really hope you found some comfort :) And that’s a really sweet photo.

Krystal I - December 8, 2009 - 3:20 AM

Very touching. Thanks for sharing a bit of your heart with us all. Hope you’re hanging in there and the heart is less achy now.

Mary - December 28, 2009 - 9:03 PM

Hello Kia,
I saw your blog comment on Jasmine’s. But your blog post is so much like my life today.
My mother is in the same condition and it is really hard for me to watch her decline in her last day. But with my faith in God, I am really coping.

I must say that the picture of your mom is the most beautiful thing I’ve seen all day (my day was really rough)

Very Touching!

amber snow - January 10, 2010 - 4:22 PM

What a sweet picture. I love old photographs.

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